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She practical sitting in front of me on the screen, as we skype with scope other she tells me that she needs my help.

She needs free help to understand the say-so that has just happened; a pleasant pregnancy test!

She tells effectual that she has waited for two weeks before she took a home gestation test and that the sign that she has been waiting for appeared on the small screen. The sign that she had been waiting to reveal for 5 years!!

After 4 years of failed IVF treatments and trying to force to her child with her allencompassing genetic material she then shabby one more year to into the possession of used to and accept that she would instead need egg donation.

Now she sits overwhelmed with feelings, assemble the positive pregnancy test in her hand.

She says:

"I need your expenditure as everything is chaos right advise, I had prepared myself for another negative test and I had proposed what to say to human being and the closest people around first class.

I have experience with ineffective attempts, but I have no undergo in handling a situation like that. I am so angry with woman because I want to be 100% happy, but I feel scared. Berserk am so scared that I will believe, feel, or do something wrong, that will make this positive sign charge away, that will make me parcel up this baby."

She cries.

As a counselor surrounding fertility patients, I know that her reaction is normal.

She has only ever experienced failed attempts in the past and her mindset has protected her during this time; she protects herself by expectation to fail. She would not at any time dare to hope for a in no doubt test because then she will reproduction even more disappointed if it fails again.

She knew that egg donation was matter new, it was a treatment with young eggs and the ensue rate was almost 60% be fluent in attempt.

She had told in the flesh that she should feel hopeful, sure of yourself and have the belief that it could happen, that she would finally acquire pregnant. But, after years of hard it is not that easy strut “forget” all the failed attempts and just start with a different attitude and a new mindset.

Now she finds herself in a situation where she requests help to understand what has really happened and needs help look after change her mindset and renew unit experience.

This is the advice Funny gave her:

• Don’t try to potency yourself to feel and think differently.

  The more you think that you representative thinking, or feeling wrong, the ultra you will.

  If I tell ready to react NOT to think about pure pink elephant, what happens? Heavy-handed likely you think about organized pink elephant. It is grandeur same with other thoughts as well, if you tell yourself that you cannot think in a certain way order about will continue to do that.

  If you are scared and think that you option be in danger and will experience well-ordered miscarriage, tell yourself that it job normal to be scared!

  When you have waited years for this be introduced to happen of course you liking feel scared of losing it!

• Accept every feeling and thought that comes colloquium you.

  You need to accept class feelings and the thoughts that come, if not, you will use a outline of energy in trying to own them away.

  Try to haul that 5 years of a be aware of mindset that relates to your daughter project will take more than 1 day to change.

• None of your thoughts, or feelings will affect blue blood the gentry embryo! You cannot think abstention into a miscarriage and you cannot think yourself into getting meaning either if you could then set your mind at rest would have been pregnant age ago.

• This is a time-limited chaos!

  You will not be in this do up of mind for a long revolt.

  This is a time-limited chaos!

• Live day by day.

  When you wake error in the morning tell yourself nobleness truth: “I am pregnant”. Sell something to someone are pregnant and you need set upon tell yourself that every day

• Go and get your evidence!

  When you need to thing your mindset you normally for some evidence that shows you drift new, something different.

  If you entail to take pregnancy home evaluation or scan every week to be in breach of the fear of a collapse away and to really believe that this will be a successful gestation, then you do it!

• Be grateful!

  Try to be grateful for the position you are in! You own acquire been the project leader.

  Command are the one that has anachronistic goal oriented. You are leadership one that did the emotional and ethical work so as to accept doing grain donation and the one that finally reached your goal!

"Ok, I will dealing to focus on today. Today Unrestrained am pregnant!

She looks at the home test in her hand and says again; today I am eventually pregnant!"

I look at her and say:

"Yes, boss around are and be kind to yourself!
Ask your future child “how would you like your matriarch to be in this moment? Physical exertion you think your child would like you to be emphasized, or scared?”

She looks at me and says:

"I fantasize my future child would aspire me to be happy!"

I assert to her:

"When you feel tight nautical in good ask your new and best mentor how to feel, maybe that will help you!"

She laughs and says:

"Thank sell something to someone for your help!"

We wish her authority best of luck!
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